Dr. Emerson Eggerichs’ book, “Love & Respect: the love she desperately desires, the respect he desperately needs,” is the latest in Christian marriage “Self-help” books. Eggerich writes in a conversational tone and fills the book with personal anecdotes drawing the reader into his life and identifying with his own marriage.
This book is split into different sections focusing on cycles that take place in a marriage. For example, the first section is labeled as “The Crazy Cycle” highlighting areas that can interfere with the relationship between man and wife. The book begins with the statement, “How can I get my husband to love me as much as I love him?” as the author shares that this is a statement he has heard over and over again. He can relate as he grew up in an unhappy home with parents who separated while he was at a young age.
The second section is “The Energizing Cycle” and this gets into the details of building a closer relationship filled with both love and respect. Closeness, openness, loyalty and understanding are all keys to building a cycle that will be one of love and respect. The book concludes with the third section, “The Rewarded Cycle” offering hope and also how a marriage can truly be with these components.
The book is definitely worth reading for anyone in a marriage and could be an option to read together as a small group.